=== ANCHOR POEM === ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────── @user-1912 By age 30 you should have: • A budget • Life insurance • $0 credit card debt • A Roth IRA or 401(k) • A credit score above 700 • A 3-6 month emergency fund • At least two streams of income • A HSA (health savings account) • Basic knowledge of personal finance I have a good credit score and basic knowledge of personal finance, but no others. However, I do have all of these:Read booksAre optimisticSeek feedbackAsk many questionsAdmit their mistakesDon't get offended easilyAre open to understanding othersAre comfortable changing their opinionSurround themselves with intelligent people ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────┘ === SIMILARITY RANKED === --- #1 fediverse/3058 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── @user-1441 @user-670 @user-113 currently toe-ing the boundary between "too neurodivergent to function" and "can juuuuust barely take care of themselves" and they ask me to get a job... no thanks, guess I'll die (in 3-4 months when my savings run out) ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #2 fediverse/1954 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────── ┌───────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: cursed-unnecessary-fear-mongering │ └───────────────────────────────────────┘ My parents always told me that you should build up an emergency fund of dollars so that you could address any unexpected expenses. however, money is only useful if you can spend it, and sometimes when I'm thinking about what would happen if suddenly every trans person in the country had to go into hiding and never leave their apartment while being supplied by helpful members of the community who they had to trust because like what else are you going to do and boy that opens up a lot of opportunities for abuse like what if they bring poisoned food or what if they're secretly judging you to decide if you're good enough to support or if they're going to throw you to the wolves so that suspicion in the area is reduced and when I think about things like that I kinda feel like my bank account isn't that important tbh ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────┘ --- #3 messages/181 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────── I know you don't want to hear this, but there is a chance that there will come a time where your life depends on your ability to debug a computer without the internet. To set up an SSH server. To install Linux. To program in C. To do something else that I'm not prepared for... If StackOverflow didn't exist because network connectivity has been lost, could you remember syntax? Maybe it's a good idea to set up a local LLM that can answer basic questions about technology. Maybe it's a good idea to set up on your parents computer, just in case you have to hide out there for a couple months. Maybe it's a good idea to download wikipedia, just in case. If I need to use a mac, I'm screwed ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #4 fediverse/4528 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────── ┌──────────────────────┐ │ CW: re: uspol │ └──────────────────────┘ @user-1695 never accept your own death fight for every second of life, something something do not go quietly into that grim dark what the fuck are you supposed to do? Reading what you said got me pretty fucking pissed - keep talking for a start, it helps, people need to be pissed. I'm also broke as shit, don't know how I'm going to pay rent and eat, but it'll get done. Where do you live? Can other people help you? Medications are an organizational problem, not an insurmountable barrier. We'll make it work. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────┘ --- #5 fediverse/1797 --- ╔════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────┐ ║ I'd like a job where I can make computer programs, write poetry, play video │ ║ games, make food for friends, grow plants and care for animals, walk or ride │ ║ my bike for at least an hour every day, and get stoned on the weekends. │ ║ │ ║ Is that too much to ask? I have plenty of other skills besides, like carpentry │ ║ and strategic thinking and wilderness survival and situational awareness and │ ║ active listening and unmitigated empathy and a curious and critical mind. │ ║ │ ║ Am I not good enough for thee? I have many flaws, I lack stamina and memory, │ ║ and while I am sharp and can think quickly and adeptly, the sharpest knives │ ║ are the first to dull, and the most focused minds are those most easy to │ ║ mislead. I trust too easily - if I meet you on the street, I'd offer my soul │ ║ to you if you said you needed it. I put the needs of others over myself, often │ ║ to my own detriment, causing others to need to assist me in turn - am I not │ ║ wretched enough to be? │ ║ │ ║ Working for 8 hours a day 5 days per week is not part of my design │ ║ requirements. Alas │ ╟─────────┐ ┌───────────┤ ║ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╚═════════╧═════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────┴──────────┘ --- #6 messages/1049 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────── Things to gather and bring before i go camping in the woods with a bunch of people who i don't know and one or two who i do know: 1. Tent 2. Cliff bars 3. Clothes 4. Cloth diapers? 5. One plastic for trip home. 6. Binoculars 7. Sword 8. Box cutter 9. Sleeping bag 10. Sleeping pad x2 11. Camping blanket 12. Notebooks 13. Pens and pencils 14. Hairties 15. Oracle dice 16. Regular dice 17. Wipes 18. Trash bags for cloth diapers? Lemme google nope they'll mold if they can't dry 19. AHHHH I'M SO SCARED HOW AM I GONNA HANDLE DIAPERS 20. Listen you'll be fine don't worry about it. Just relax and take things as they come. 21. Modesty the dinosaur 22. Pacifier 23. Glasses 24. Outfits 25. Swim suit? Too cold 26. Headlamp 27. Hats 28. Cannabis 29. Water bottle 30. Snap card 31. Credit card, just in case 32. 250$ in cash dollars 33. Instructions on how to get home if i need to walk 34. Bring the sun the moon and the earth 35. Bring w7 36. Scarves 37. Braile House 38. Umbreon Kigurumi 39. Sword cleaning materials 40. Jiffy pop popcorn ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────┘ --- #7 fediverse/2462 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── depending on your age, you'll want to start learning and mastering different types of skills. for example, as a millennial, my job is to learn about camping, combat, logistics, and network and communications security. fitness is important at all ages. be gregarious. introduce your friends to other friends. the more friend groups you have and know enough about to connect together, the better. don't introduce someone because they seem similar, but rather because they could help each other with something specific they've mentioned. if they don't hit it off, that's fine. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #8 fediverse/3711 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── ┌──────────────────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: food-mentioned-politics-capitalism-mentioned │ └──────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ what if instead of spending most of our paycheck on rent we spent most of it on food so that our food could be higher quality "but then people will starve because they can't afford food" okay how about we make food free and tax it "but then people will be fed by MY tax dollars and what if I don't want to use the services that the tax dollars are paying for" oh you don't want to eat, do you? or do you just not want THEM to eat? I hope leopards eat your face ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ --- #9 fediverse/2259 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── landlords when they deny a rental application to a person with a 787 credit score based on their credit score (it's on a scale out of 850) ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #10 fediverse/5860 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────── Hey, life is better on my side. If you wanna renounce your beliefs, please do, and tell me how and why you changed your mind. tell me it was wrong. tell me how. confess. confess confess to me. I will listen and I will hear you and I will be the mercy for you. confess and I will forgive. show me how you are wrong. give grace to those who are wronged. take as much time as you need, but, there's only so much time. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────┘ --- #11 fediverse/4469 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────── doom is like sand thrown on a fire. don't spread it unless you are intentional about it. sometimes it's good to smother fires. other times it's cathartic. that's okay. but keep in mind the future goals. where are we trying to get to in the near future? work towards that. your emotions are fuel, not despair to wallow in. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────┘ --- #12 fediverse/1431 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────── ┌───────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: spirituality-generic-kooky-dookerie-psychosis-schizophrenia-mentioned │ └───────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ if you haven't spend hours wondering if you're god, the antichrist, a cognitohazard, the future president of the world, a target of aliens / the CIA, or any other number of common delusions... then congratulations you're probably not crazy but odds are you aren't magic, either. ... ehhhh "wonder" is a strong word, more like "know, trust, and believe" much better to be a witch I believe, someone with the "teehee" kind of magic than someone compelled to destroy humanity through the reactions of others to the actions of the self that are impossible to resist or fully control. BRB I'm going to leave my apartment to get groceries, leaving my door unlocked because that's what I always do, surely it'll be empty when I return. Surely. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────┘ --- #13 messages/349 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────── Okay how about this, for starters? Jobs can no longer ask for degrees, instead they must rely on certifications. In addition, everyone who has completed a degree receives money every month in exchange for their increased value they bring to whichever job hires them. This money is sourced from a tax taken on businesses in rough proportion to the amount of money they save by paying their employees the same amount, no matter their education. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────┘ --- #14 fediverse/537 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────── @user-366 @user-367 @user-246 @user-353 Ah yes, wouldn't it be nice if everyone spoke their mind? I'm doing my part d=(^_^)z Thank you for adding context to what I posted. I now know better how and where to use it, if I ever do again. We shall see, I haven't yet read the examinations of the author you sent me. I'll do that before I think about the post again. Those 6 tabs I mentioned last night have now become 4, and soon I'll get through all of them - reading is a joy to me ^_^ ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #15 messages/844 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────── It is usually better to spend points of dollars rather than goodwill. Save goodwill for when they have so much of it they are looking for someone to give it away from. When in distress, ask for dollars to be used on your behalf. When in celebration, ask for goodwill to be used on your behalf. I'm still trying to save capitalism, individualism, and our way of life from its own jaws as it eats it's own tale. Part of that means pulling the tail right back out, and another part is pulling the teeth back. Gotta do both. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────┘ --- #16 messages/86 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────── I should try putting things on my resume like "vnc" or "Microsoft outlook" - you know, the kinds of software that I actually used on a day-to-day basis. My resume makes me look very impressive (if a little inexperienced) but none of the tools are things that managers have used. Heck they're not things that YOU have used, not at work, so it makes you look like you're overselling yourself. You're not, but they might think you are. Idk it's late. Go to bed <3 ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #17 fediverse/2480 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── so what if people want to sit on the couch eating cheetos? they're more than capable of something far greater, but of course they are allowed to spend as they like their life. their ONLY life. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #18 fediverse/4730 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────── I am not interested in being given money. Usually it means someone wants something from me, like labor or some of my stuff. I have all the stuff I need, why would I need more money? I like my stuff! I'll help out when people need help but I do that because I'm a good person, not because I want you to fucking pay me for it. I have all the things I need... except a deed to my house. apartment. oh yeah, they can kick you out for that sin. well, sorry, I couldn't find out at goodwill or in the trash bin, so I guess I'm deed-less. My deeds go unproven. How can I prove that I deserve a decent life in this particular roof, the one I find over my head, when I cannot prove that my deeds qualify me for a decent life lived under this particular roof? I mean, did you ask the neighbors if they want me gone? Am I really that smelly? Does my keyboard make "clickety-clack" noises all through the night? Does my cat meow and bother the children? Do my friendly smiles and waves make you uncomfortable? Have a decent life. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────┘ --- #19 fediverse/1042 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────── ┌─────────────────────────┐ │ CW: personal-vent-sorry │ └─────────────────────────┘ "your feelings are valid, but have you considered that your feelings aren't actually valid because you're always wrong and nobody should ever apologize to you for anything because you suck and are wrong?" also, "my six digit salary isn't enough to pay for your rice and beans, but I won't have you eating sticks and mud, so do things you don't want to do because I said so." also, "I don't really "get" your art but that doesn't mean I should ever really try reading it. Also god forbid I actually ask for clarification like "what does that part mean" because I'm not actually that interested in you I just want a stable household so I never get traumatized again like [their childhood]" also, "yes I love you but no I don't want to play with you. you're such a cat." also, "every time you start making sense I'm going to try and derail the conversation so that we don't talk about kooky-dookerie because that's a conversation I can't win" also, sorry for venting. I mean, thanks for listeni ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┘ --- #20 fediverse/2512 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── ┌───────────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: re: question that is also complaining │ └───────────────────────────────────────────┘ @user-1153 it's okay. If I were to direct something to be more proactive, my words probably wouldn't stick with it. that kind of thing can't be hardwired, it needs to be built up through repetitious application of something's mechanics. perhaps martial arts, focused on defence? engaging with a foe in a productive bout of playful competition is one of the best ways to learn, and knowing when to strike seems similar to me to overcoming situational paralysis. Flaws can be overcome, when upgrading robots (or a doll applying improvements to itself) you often don't need to add additional hardware or even install new firmware. Skills such as these can be built up in software with experience. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ |