=== ANCHOR POEM === ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── @user-1218 well, if your partner doesn't want to change their mind, they won't. And if someone's mind is being changed, or if someone is attempting to change someone else's mind, then there must always be a changer and a changee. So it's okay to be the changee sometimes! In fact, that's my default state. I only change someone else's mind if they're wrong and hurting others. But that's rare. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ === SIMILARITY RANKED === --- #1 fediverse/951 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────── @user-667 you're only wrong if you don't change your mind upon realizing you're incorrect ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┘ --- #2 fediverse/432 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────── @user-311 @user-312 @user-313 @user-314 it's not malignant if people change their mind once presented with evidence that counters and eclipses their pre-conceived notions. If people don't change their mind after receiving arguments that logically should change their mind and rationally seem sound but emotionally contrast with their pre-aligned designs... then yeah that's essentially malignance. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #3 fediverse/412 --- ╔════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────────┐ ║ disney movies taught me that sometimes, if you're kind and good enough, the │ ║ villain will change their mind. │ ║ │ ║ It's difficult to change your perspective. Like believing a different way │ ║ about something. But just because it's difficult to do, doesn't mean it's │ ║ impossible - in fact it's quite plausible, we have examples scattered │ ║ throughout time. │ ║ │ ║ you can get better at it, with practice. it's one of the neat things about │ ║ being human - that our choices have meaning. an animal animaling is just │ ║ expressing it's form - but a cat or a dog, who've lived with humans their │ ║ whole life, start to have visions of ethics. │ ║ │ ║ your cat knows when she's being a shit. she know's it's wrong, but she knows │ ║ it's how you most love her. that is an ethical decision, and it came through │ ║ her proximity to humans. │ ║ │ ║ the ability to guide our own fate is determined not by our choices in our │ ║ moments, but rather by the structure of the mind we define. our choices are │ ║ patterns that are reflected through repetition, but values and morals are our │ ║ own │ ╟─────────┐ ┌───────────┤ ║ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╚═════════╧═════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┴──────────┘ --- #4 messages/143 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────── I always figured if people didn't like what I was saying they'd contest me so I could change it. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #5 fediverse/3546 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── @user-1218 teehee online gives you lots of practice! short conversations can be useful. But they're hardly effective if your goal is to change someone else's mind. More casual talk is useful too! ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ --- #6 fediverse/5860 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────── Hey, life is better on my side. If you wanna renounce your beliefs, please do, and tell me how and why you changed your mind. tell me it was wrong. tell me how. confess. confess confess to me. I will listen and I will hear you and I will be the mercy for you. confess and I will forgive. show me how you are wrong. give grace to those who are wronged. take as much time as you need, but, there's only so much time. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────┘ --- #7 fediverse/4470 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────── to be "rich" is to have more than another. if you are happy, they are happiness poor. if you have community, they are alone. if you have serenity, they are chaotic. I am rich in very little but fire in my soul. I have enough in most cases, but I still struggle to pay rent. I am warmed by the pearl my swirling darkness has coalesced into. It nourishes me and keeps me aligned. Never forget your purpose and your truth. It will not abandon you, so long as you do so too. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────┘ --- #8 fediverse/3775 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────── ┌──────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: re: personal-medical-health-mentioned-cannabis-mentioned │ └──────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ @user-1550 yeah because they infect everyone else who is on the same wavelength. When you change the ripples of the pond you inhabit, those who are in similar ponds will find their ripples resonate in the same ways. which is why I try and be a good, positive, and heartfelt influence to the voices in my head when stoned xD ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────┘ --- #9 fediverse/100 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────────── @user-119 @autisticadvocacy I couldn't live with myself if I wasn't the kindest, most heartfelt person I could be. The simplest mistake has me in sorrow. When I hurt someone's feelings I can't help but try to rectify what harms I caused and apologize and console for those I cannot fix. I try to be gracious and welcoming to all hearts and minds, and when presented with arguments that are contrary to my beliefs I change them. "If what you say about X study and Y statistic, then you're right that Z conclusion makes sense. I'm worried about A cause and I believe it might cause B effect, which would still make sense if X and Y are true. I think you might be right! And it would make sense that C is present still, wouldn't it?" Basically trying to understand another's point of view so concretely that you cannot help but understand their viewpoints. I'm also pretty good at understanding their viewpoints and changing their mind, because I can feel what's important to them. Empathy is like human telepathy. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #10 fediverse/169 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────────── @user-95 one of the most empathetic people I ever met on VR chat was consoling me with their mic off while I was oversharing about some stupid things people did to me in the past. things that stupid me thought were okay and actively encouraged because I was stupid. anyway when their mic was off their body language spoke for them. I'll try that next time. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #11 fediverse/2381 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── I smile at each and every person I pass on the street. Unless it looks like they're having a bad day, and then I try to switch to neutral as fast as I can so they can feel their feelings without me interjecting and making it about me. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #12 fediverse/4000 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────── @user-889 Don't give up! At least... not forever. It's okay to take a breath every once in a while It's okay to lie down and cry The only way away from those feelings is through. They've enveloped you. You need to swallow them whole, like a sponge soaking up dirt[y water] the only thing you need to think about is what's around you. It's okay to be alone for a moment, it's the best time to feel. Remember, feeling is how you know the world! It's your power, to feel, and I know it's hard. Everyone has different powers, but yours is this. You'll be okay, I know it ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┘ --- #13 fediverse/2956 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── sometimes your best intuitions don't manage to manifest the goal you've been pursuing. that's okay, it just means you need a different approach. hopefully, with experience, you've had the chance to continually pay attention. Thus, improve on things that were originally conceived of as concessions. much better, I find, to point your idea of "truth" toward what you believe in, rather than what you've been working with. Such an approach allows for continual re-examination, justified by thoroughly moral and ethical conclusions that you hold to be true. like, a form of reverse legalism, where the emotions compel while the law tells the tale. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #14 fediverse/4068 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────── there will always be people who shine in moments of strife yet those people will inevitably fail, just as a toothbrush bristle looses it's strength or a pencil loses it's lead the trick is to test them in times of peace, so you can know their value during times that lack it, the trick is to replace them before they become stalin never forget that power corrupts, yet power must be wielded by the worthy, else we fall into shame and despair. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────┘ --- #15 fediverse/2518 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── it's good to be ethical, it's good to be kind, but there will always be assholes, and sometimes you're not having a good time it's okay it's fine assholes deserve life times deserve others to be kind life is not always interesting and that's often by design the moments of clarity, the moments of heart, these are what define you and display your own spark. trust in yourself. be kind to one another. you are braver than you know, and always a bit wiser. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #16 messages/1118 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──── They say you don't need drugs to reach transcendent states of mind. But, I've found that forming yourself into a person who can do that necessarily changes you. I don't know if i want that kind of change. Are they all improvements? Perhaps. So, drugs are a nice option if you want to remain yourself yet also teach those states of mine. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───┘ --- #17 fediverse/3936 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────── you shouldn't trust me because I'll let you down. I would never betray you. But when tasked with my own actions and my own agency, I never make the right choice. Like a rabbit who can always find their way home, I am drawn, almost gravitically, to the path before me, a path which seems to avoid anything resolute. alas. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┘ --- #18 fediverse/2031 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────── @user-1074 We've always been that way in their eyes. If they make it legal, nothing will change in how people think of you. They might be a bit bolder if there's fewer legal protections, but laws have always just been words. There are more of us than there are of them. If you have community, you'll feel safer. I know it's scary but we can get through it together. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────┘ --- #19 messages/747 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────── if you don't want to be hunted, then give "evil" it's own queer culture what's that? they don't like what you offered? they want it to be *their* kind of "evil"? fine, do it themselves and then leave us alone, jeez -.- ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────┘ --- #20 messages/89 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────── Consumption is contribution to a capitalist system. Normalize taking whatever you are given and living as humbly as you can. Only when everyone does that may capitalism die. Talk to them, learn from their stories. Teach them your ways but don't force anything upon them. Any ounce of regret is defined as a mind not aligned to the angle of perception that designs the line that the collective mind co-re-assigns. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────────┘ |