=== ANCHOR POEM === ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── @user-1218 teehee online gives you lots of practice! short conversations can be useful. But they're hardly effective if your goal is to change someone else's mind. More casual talk is useful too! ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ === SIMILARITY RANKED === --- #1 fediverse/4706 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────── ┌───────────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: re: cursing-mentioned-nazis-mentioned │ └───────────────────────────────────────────┘ "oh also I should mention that if you think about her too hard or too often there's a chance she'll overhear what you're talking about anyway so try not to think about her too much." ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────┘ --- #2 fediverse/3532 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── @user-1218 shallow conversations are hardly effective, I find. Unless they're logistical, and then they're just passing information - they're hardly conversational. To me, a conversation is a back-and-forth. It needs to have change, people need to consider, to argue their ideas, to wander through thoughts, to share emotions, and / or to resolve conflict, whether internal or external. It can have some of those, all of those, or none of those, but that's what comes to my mind. So a shallow conversation wouldn't really count as "effective" for the purposes of the original toot : ) ... hehe toot ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ --- #3 messages/664 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────── Part of the reason I like Reddit is because you can have multiple different conversations about the same topic at once. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────┘ --- #4 messages/1388 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─ I spend time on Reddit because it feels like a conversation. Well, it used to. Now it's... different. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════┘ --- #5 fediverse/3547 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── @user-1218 well, if your partner doesn't want to change their mind, they won't. And if someone's mind is being changed, or if someone is attempting to change someone else's mind, then there must always be a changer and a changee. So it's okay to be the changee sometimes! In fact, that's my default state. I only change someone else's mind if they're wrong and hurting others. But that's rare. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ --- #6 fediverse/3099 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── people gravitate toward other people who are in different situations but who feel the same. it's not always a bad thing to "talk past each other" - sometimes you just want to say how you feel. then again, if nobody can understand wtf you're talking about, then surely you are lost. all good ideas come at the cost of the second-most-favorable-option. all good ideas come at the cost of the current destination. [current, flawed,] ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #7 fediverse/166 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────────── @user-147 years of practice. every time you delete what you said is another chance to practice that slips away. writing is the easy part, you got that down because you need something to delete, right? the hard part is being received by others, and continuing the conversation as you direct it. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #8 messages/109 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────── That's why I like talking about things I'm interested in. It makes me more likely to be able to bring up something I've been thinking about. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #9 fediverse/2756 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── my ideas are not the useful ones. the thoughts they spark in yours are. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #10 fediverse/2676 --- ╔═════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────┐ ║ if you asked me to start talking, I could continue for hours explaining │ ║ technical details of computer systems or the different types of win-conditions │ ║ in different strategy games or how to make good pasta with only 3 ingredients │ ║ or what it's like to be a cat, how must they see things or overcome barriers │ ║ between them and solutions? │ ║ │ ║ ..... anyway it's important to be able to talk for a long period of time at │ ║ the drop of a hat because if your conversation partner needs you to │ ║ immediately initiate a conversation, you can do so. │ ║ │ ║ there are a myriad of reasons why someone would want an immediate │ ║ conversation, including "acting casual" or because they want to be distracted │ ║ from nearby suffering or whatever. │ ║ │ ║ in addition, being able to follow long conversations with little bits of │ ║ useful and actionable information thrown in to an otherwise indecipherable │ ║ melange of verbal goo. │ ║ │ ║ what's important is to trust your conversation partner, and to know that │ ║ they're giving you what they can because they trust nothing around. │ ╟─────────┐ ┌───────────┤ ║ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╚═════════╧══════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────┴──────────┘ --- #11 fediverse/2515 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── interactions in the real world are more valuable than those here, but here more people can hear. and those that do hear here hear more well-formed thoughts. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #12 fediverse/1293 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────── ┌──────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: re: fedi meta, the bad space, fediblock, misleading and untrue cw, uspol, speedrunning discourse, industrial revolution, aquarium tips │ └──────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ @user-921 where tf is all this discourse I always hear about like what are ya'll talking about ... are you talking about me [silly intrusive thoughts teehee pay no mind] ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────┘ --- #13 fediverse/2481 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── on one hand, conversation to spark insight. on the other, being connected to me. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #14 fediverse/4045 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────── sometimes I like chatting online more than in person because online you can have like, 3 different conversations going at once meanwhile in person you get body language, and the benefit of activities and shared experiences. They're both useful for different things. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┘ --- #15 fediverse/4012 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────── you can't just tell people you're enlightened. You gotta trick them, and convince them you're sane first. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┘ --- #16 fediverse/3451 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── ┌─────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: mental-health-mentioned │ └─────────────────────────────┘ dear ritz: you should stop talking until your new psychiatric meds take effect. who knows, maybe you'll be a better person that people should listen to instead of... whatever you are now. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ --- #17 fediverse/4485 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────── getting the phone numbers of cute he/thems at a bar is NOT the same as organizing. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────┘ --- #18 fediverse/1150 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────── when you change profile pictures the beings inside my brain see you as a different entity less so for names, as visuals are [closer to] their native language ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┘ --- #19 fediverse/4895 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────── don't think about how rare something is. think about how useful it is to you. we can make more stuff. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────┘ --- #20 fediverse/5416 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────── if you aren't rude, or bothersome, or excessively boring, you can pretty much be my friend forever. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────┘ |