=== ANCHOR POEM === ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────── you don't have to like someone to be in a community with them. you don't have to want what's happening to consent to it. enthusiastic consent is like friendship. It doesn't have to be present, but it's what you optimize for. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────┘ === SIMILARITY RANKED === --- #1 fediverse/1330 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────── @user-803 It sounds like you're describing consent, right? ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────┘ --- #2 fediverse/2466 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── do as I say, and as I do. or don't, do as you want to. I hope you do want to do what I say to do. I wouldn't say it if I didn't think it was right. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #3 messages/747 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────── if you don't want to be hunted, then give "evil" it's own queer culture what's that? they don't like what you offered? they want it to be *their* kind of "evil"? fine, do it themselves and then leave us alone, jeez -.- ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────┘ --- #4 messages/1177 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─── it's more than a community if only one person asks where you've been. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──┘ --- #5 fediverse/3366 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── I don't know who needs to hear this, but if your friend sends you a paragraph you don't have to respond with a paragraph. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #6 messages/1002 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────── In revolutionary Cascadia, you don't have to do anything different. Until you decide you want to. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────┘ --- #7 fediverse/5681 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────── I'm a helper and everyone wants me to be more agentic but it's like... no... I don't wanna... ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────┘ --- #8 fediverse/5538 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────── @user-1074 what do you do with the people who don't want to do that in particular and want to try a different sort of socialism? ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────┘ --- #9 messages/498 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── An important aspect to friendship is "loose" time together - like, at a party, you might interact with a dozen people, or you might spend it all with one special someone - but the time is "loose" you can do with it what you will. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ --- #10 fediverse/3351 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── privacy doesn't mean anything on the internet to me because privacy on the internet doesn't mean anything to "them" gestures vaguely, maybe winks once or twice and/or presents an emphasis face ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #11 messages/765 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────── you don't have to write poetry to write notes. The poetics are just practice for when secrecy is intended. OR IS IT THE REAL THING? who can say. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────┘ --- #12 fediverse/5292 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────── you can trust me, but please don't rely on me, for all of my power is soft. sometimes people just don't want to do what I tell them to, and I wouldn't have it any other way. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────┘ --- #13 fediverse/321 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────── content warnings are like white-listed cognito-consent. but they're applied by the creator of the cognito-units, meaning it's consent that must be offered. what happens when something triggers someone but you didn't think to put it in a content warning? consent should be GIVEN not OFFERED. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #14 fediverse_boost/5566 --- ◀─╔═════════════════════════════[BOOST]══════════════════════════════────────────╗ ║ ┌────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐ ║ ║ │ We have to figure out how to take care of each other and fight alongside one another which means we have to actually, like, listen to each other. │ ║ ║ └────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ ║ ╠─────────┐ ┌───────────╣ ║ similar │ chronological │ different ║ ╚═════════╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────┴───────╝─▶ --- #15 messages/1176 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─── it's not a community if nobody would ask where you've been. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──┘ --- #16 fediverse/2123 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────── Every time you see the same dog being dog-sat by another person it's an opportunity to make a new friend. or do you not know your apartment neighbors? do they not wander through your shared yards? the ones with dogs, at least. and no, I don't know many of my neighbors. these are considerations to be taken note of for future forethought planning. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────┘ --- #17 fediverse/5380 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────── ┌────────────────────────┐ │ CW: politics-mentioned │ └────────────────────────┘ dear right-wing converts to the cult of sanity: you don't have to be trans just to show [your devotion/you're sorry], we'll accept anyone who is cool and "gets it" ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────┘ --- #18 fediverse/1438 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────── ┌───────────────────────┐ │ CW: suicide-mentioned │ └───────────────────────┘ if you're gonna kill yourself anyway, might as well throw yourself at a cause you believe in. Ideally the kind that requires repeated attendance and lots of opportunities to make friends or forge communal bonds with people who can help you. honestly, what do you have to lose? sure it's hard, but nothing worth doing is easy. If it were, someone else would have done it already. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────┘ --- #19 fediverse/6021 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────── you volunteer for things because you want a say in how they turn out. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────┘ --- #20 fediverse/6441 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───── you can only ever talk to a community while on mainstage. er wait sorry it was this: you can only ever talk to people in a community, not the community itself. unless you are on mainstage. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────┘ |