=== ANCHOR POEM === ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── An important aspect to friendship is "loose" time together - like, at a party, you might interact with a dozen people, or you might spend it all with one special someone - but the time is "loose" you can do with it what you will. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ === SIMILARITY RANKED === --- #1 fediverse/3834 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────── ┌────────────────────────┐ │ CW: politics-mentioned │ └────────────────────────┘ some people prepare for revolution like a boy gets ready for a party others do so like a girl packing for a weekend trip to vegas I do it like a kid who forgot the paper was due on monday in 7th period and so spends their entire lunch period writing it (missing 4th in the process because the conclusion paragraph was giving me difficulty) but I think no matter how you do it, we're all just waiting for something to happen. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────┘ --- #2 fediverse/4817 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────── ┌────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: re: politics-mentioned │ └────────────────────────────┘ @user-1074 my family includes my friends. My family is smaller than my community, but it's still a useful category of people. Those you are close enough with to mutually seek to spend time together, compared to a community which is those who take care of each other, work together, and live through time with. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────┘ --- #3 fediverse/3620 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── @user-192 Yep! back in the day be-fore "four play" you could generally only single-play, and for "four play" you'd typically find friends be-fore play-ing. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ --- #4 messages/887 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────── To defeat community, all they have to do is get you to have more fun with their people until you start spending time away from the enmeshed people who know you. Honeypot style. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────┘ --- #5 messages/1253 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════── If you want to add someone to a community, you have to take the time and spend the effort to stitch them in. You can't just throw them in the pot - they might not stay, and they might spend time on surface socializing that could be spent building deeper connections and unlocking new, precious moments that require trust and connection. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─┘ --- #6 fediverse/5719 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────── I love dispatch tables! which is a term I just learned and a concept I have been using for a while. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────┘ --- #7 fediverse/3089 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── if you're meeting a friend from out of town the first time, it's best if they arrive early and you have the day off to show them around. or if they arrive late, you can meet them in a public place the next day and then spend time at your favorite spots. ideally, with people who would recognize you if the person from out of town decided to be hurtful and/or replace you. plus, that way you can gauge their character and decide whether or not you want them in your own home. they might be different than they are online, after all. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #8 fediverse/2123 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────── Every time you see the same dog being dog-sat by another person it's an opportunity to make a new friend. or do you not know your apartment neighbors? do they not wander through your shared yards? the ones with dogs, at least. and no, I don't know many of my neighbors. these are considerations to be taken note of for future forethought planning. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────┘ --- #9 fediverse/6372 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───── I'd rather feed Death relationships than lives. Birth and renewal, as you generate NRE. Then, stagnation, as you grow more on things you don't share than on things you do share. Then, you set each other up with a cute friend [lol] they're still going strong ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────┘ --- #10 fediverse/5460 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────── if you sit down to write and nothing comes to mind, then either nothing needs to be said or maybe you should spend time reading instead. ... okey dokey, time to read I guess. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────┘ --- #11 fediverse/5341 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────── what a friend we have in time gives us children makes us wine tells us what to take or leave behind ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────┘ --- #12 fediverse_boost/5566 --- ◀─╔═════════════════════════════[BOOST]══════════════════════════════────────────╗ ║ ┌────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐ ║ ║ │ We have to figure out how to take care of each other and fight alongside one another which means we have to actually, like, listen to each other. │ ║ ║ └────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ ║ ╠─────────┐ ┌───────────╣ ║ similar │ chronological │ different ║ ╚═════════╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────┴───────╝─▶ --- #13 fediverse/693 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────── That feeling when you do a thing a friend showed you how to do, and you think of them 🥰🥰🥰 ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #14 messages/527 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────── could give us some experience organizing small, short-term projects to accomplish specific goals and tasks in an ad-hoc way that relied less upon procedure and more on "I think so-and-so knows something about that, they were looking into those files and posted a breakdown of how they work yesterday" ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────┘ --- #15 fediverse/6457 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───── the second rule is you don't have to hang out with mortals. there are places you can go where they won't find you, except by accident, and then you just go somewhere else. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────┘ --- #16 fediverse/2462 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── depending on your age, you'll want to start learning and mastering different types of skills. for example, as a millennial, my job is to learn about camping, combat, logistics, and network and communications security. fitness is important at all ages. be gregarious. introduce your friends to other friends. the more friend groups you have and know enough about to connect together, the better. don't introduce someone because they seem similar, but rather because they could help each other with something specific they've mentioned. if they don't hit it off, that's fine. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #17 fediverse/900 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────── if you want time to go slower, stop entertaining yourself. "time flies when you're having fun" ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┘ --- #18 fediverse/5750 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────── I love when I can go on walks... they're soooooo much fun! can see so many cool people and places and things... alas ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────┘ --- #19 fediverse/1841 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────── curling up in a ball and thinking about crying for hours is the same as crying. If a little bit less of a release. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────┘ --- #20 fediverse/4470 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────── to be "rich" is to have more than another. if you are happy, they are happiness poor. if you have community, they are alone. if you have serenity, they are chaotic. I am rich in very little but fire in my soul. I have enough in most cases, but I still struggle to pay rent. I am warmed by the pearl my swirling darkness has coalesced into. It nourishes me and keeps me aligned. Never forget your purpose and your truth. It will not abandon you, so long as you do so too. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────┘ |