=== ANCHOR POEM === ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── @user-138 homework is fine if they give you free time to do it. But most of the time they expect children to go to school for 8 hours a day and then go home to more work. No thank you. When I was homeschooled, I had about 1-3 hours of schoolwork every day. After that, I would read, play, explore, and spend time under the sun. I can imagine no other way to be. But that's just me. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ === SIMILARITY RANKED === --- #1 notes/homeschooling-2 --- ══════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────────────────── students should be in class no more than 50% of their time spent at school the rest should be set aside for homework, socializing, eating, and resting. whatever those mean to the student is what they'll organize their life around. if you give them the choice to choose which classes they take, they'll learn what they want to know about this world. give them all kinds of options! seriously, like so many! and have teachers give talks every week or so. they could travel around and stay at each school for a week or so, before moving to the next *once their lesson was completed*. and the kids could sign up for them by slotting them into their schedules and they'd have the whole semester to think about what they wanted to take next year (the classes would be scheduled in advance.) could be cool is all i'm saying and it'd respect the child's autonomy to give them choices. who are you to say what is most important to a child? who are you to know what guides them so? who am I indeed ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #2 fediverse/3211 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── ┌─────────────────────────┐ │ CW: mental-health-minus │ └─────────────────────────┘ on one hand, public school is designed to teach discipline and obedience in order to develop productive workers for society, while other forms of schooling can be focused on other things (critical thinking, imagination, and emotional growth in my homeschooled experience) on the other hand, now I can't work a job. Great. Kinda feels like I'm disabled because I don't know how to sacrifice myself to the jaws of capital exploitation? But hey I can write pretty well, I can make computers do what I want (until they break when I stop touching them for a month), and I am the kindest sunspot in anyone's life that knows me. ... I Don't Want to Live on this Planet Anymore is a cool movie ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #3 fediverse/3834 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────── ┌────────────────────────┐ │ CW: politics-mentioned │ └────────────────────────┘ some people prepare for revolution like a boy gets ready for a party others do so like a girl packing for a weekend trip to vegas I do it like a kid who forgot the paper was due on monday in 7th period and so spends their entire lunch period writing it (missing 4th in the process because the conclusion paragraph was giving me difficulty) but I think no matter how you do it, we're all just waiting for something to happen. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────┘ --- #4 fediverse/3549 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── ┌───────────────────────────┐ │ CW: video-games-mentioned │ └───────────────────────────┘ if the choice is between working on your game / mod and playing a game / mod, always work on your game / mod. your work will outlast you. your time spent in a state of pleasure will sustain you. sometimes there's not a choice. sometimes you need to play, and that's okay. to play is natural, it's one of the first things humans do. we also work. children build sand castles. adults build stone castles. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ --- #5 fediverse/1520 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────── the slower you think about things, the more time you have to write to long-term memory. School optimizes this out of us. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────┘ --- #6 messages/240 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────── I realized the reason it's so difficult for me to get into a new video game is because my perfect game existed at one point, but no longer, and all else pales in comparison. The make-believe games of children are without equal. They represent our inner truth and desires, cast upon the canvas of our experience through the outputs of imagination and physical exertion. I'd spend my time as a child wandering through the forest with a stick in hand, climbing on things and exploring. I grew up in Wyoming, and the forests there look like this: ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┘ --- #7 fediverse/1996 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────── I don't expect or demand anything from teenagers except perhaps "be a cool kid" and "learn all that you can" Even most adults when they mess up I just think "ah, well, they're trying their hardest, same as anyone" And tbh I'd rather see a kid running up and down the aisles than burying themselves in an ipad I think we, as a culture, built our society to demand too many "should"s from people. "I should get a job" "I should study this thing I'm not interested in so I can make more money" "I should put out traps for the rabid wolverines so they don't start hanging out in my underwear" "I should pick up detergent at the grocery store" Should is useless. Do; or do not. There is no should. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────┘ --- #8 fediverse/2951 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── I wish I could like... ride my bike somewhere for an hour or two, consult for a bit, then ride home (or to the next place) that'd be a fun way to apply myself, and it'd give me the chance to have some space for myself. as long as I had time to rest, I'm usually only good for half of a day. unless it's a project with a lot of tasks that need coordination, like building a house or working through a short-term urgent disaster. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #9 fediverse/3884 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────── ┌────────────────────────┐ │ CW: children-mentioned │ └────────────────────────┘ children should be raised in museums, not classrooms they should visit parks, not fenced in playgrounds. they should eat with family, at festivals, in restaurants, and under the stars they should sleep content, knowing that their next day will be greater than the last. children should be treated like people, not frustratingly loud and messy little brats children are to be nurtured like a sapling, not harnessed like a machine I'll never have kids, but I can dream. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┘ --- #10 fediverse/1317 --- ╔═══════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┐ ║ ... if I don't do this deadline by tomorrow they'll kick me out of school. │ ║ again. │ ║ │ ║ how am I going to be a programmer without a degree? feels useless to be me. │ ║ wish I could code my own horoscope >.> │ ║ │ ║ o wait dummy that's called "motivation" and "the ability to follow through on │ ║ your ideas and planned machinations" - yeah can I get some of that, if you │ ║ please? surely just a taste of discipline, through laboring to alter │ ║ conditions, surely a bit would suffice. │ ║ │ ║ c'mon don't fail me now. I can do this. I know I can. I know because I've been │ ║ told that I can, now and again through time and time yet again, always I seem │ ║ to [stack overflow] │ ║ │ ║ what's time if not the present amiright │ ║ │ ║ ... │ ║ │ ║ anyway... │ ║ │ ║ it's just git, how hard could it be? it's just calculus, it's just java, it's │ ║ just... well, it's not any of those things, not really. it's memorization, │ ║ it's application of tools that you've been shown (not that you've grown). It's │ ║ a lack of responsibility, where is my honor? ah but I digress, I'm a carpenter │ ║ at heart I guess │ ╟─────────┐ ┌───────────┤ ║ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╚═════════╧════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┴──────────┘ --- #11 fediverse/4273 --- ╔══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┐ ║ Some of my most wanderful times were when I lived in a gated community. │ ║ │ ║ My parents were dumb, and thought, as most people thought, that harm to a │ ║ child can only come from outside of the community. │ ║ │ ║ But they fell for the lies of property, where "community" means less of "a │ ║ group of people who cares and tends for one another" the kind of which my │ ║ parents had never truly known, and more like "this particular residential area │ ║ on the map" │ ║ │ ║ which means I could walk around in this gated "community" where the gates are │ ║ little more than security theatre for anyone who says "Hi I got a pizza here │ ║ for this address which I found on google maps" or "hey I left my sweatshirt at │ ║ my sister's house and it has my phone in it, ummmm no I don't remember which │ ║ number her house is, nor do I remember her last name" │ ║ │ ║ in those times, I developed a sense of freedom, caged as I was, that for most │ ║ comes much later in their time. │ ║ │ ║ Some o my favorite places were part of the golf course next door, where I │ ║ found a nigh endless river delta. │ ╟─────────┐ ┌───────────┤ ║ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╚═════════╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────┴──────────┘ --- #12 fediverse/5460 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────── if you sit down to write and nothing comes to mind, then either nothing needs to be said or maybe you should spend time reading instead. ... okey dokey, time to read I guess. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────┘ --- #13 messages/20 --- ══───────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────── My mom was always the reason I did school work. After she stopped pushing me, I stopped moving because I didn't know how to generate my own momentum. I had no passion and was listless. Least of all for school work. So, how to do it better? Instead of buying toys and extravagance for kids, you should set them up with projects. Ask what they want, and then help them build it. Include them in your thought processes when you're problem solving, and ask them for input. If they offer bad ideas, then *tell them*, don't just let them fail. If you're not 100% sure but they're convinced, then trust them! Try it out, who knows. Maybe it'll work better than what you had in mind. The goal isn't to be BETTER than them, it's to make them BETTER than you! Not right now (don't push too hard), but when they're your age. Like, it's best if they accomplish more and lived life more fully than you did at your age, but don't push them to be wise or strong or intelligent at the age they are now. Trust that they will grow when you give them room to, and guide and cultivate them toward goodness. For example, if they do something wrong (hitting other kids, messing with animals, destroying objects) then guide them toward a better path. Teach them empathy, and show them how it works by doing it yourself! Ask them questions like "How would you feel if that happened to you?", show them weak points and how to avoid them when playing, and give them alternatives to the behaviors they do that directly harm others. "Maybe play with the dog this way, instead of being rough" "Maybe you and that other kid can ride your bikes or draw instead of fighting - or if you still want to fight, then learn how to tell when someone is hurt and try to help them." The goal isn't to push them really hard off a cliff in a hanglider, hoping they can figure it out in the air, it's to strengthen their legs so they can run fast enough that they can take off successfully. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═────────┴┴───────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #14 messages/527 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────── could give us some experience organizing small, short-term projects to accomplish specific goals and tasks in an ad-hoc way that relied less upon procedure and more on "I think so-and-so knows something about that, they were looking into those files and posted a breakdown of how they work yesterday" ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────┘ --- #15 fediverse/4016 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────── why do we have to work so hard to work they should be ready and waiting, jumping at the chance to utilize our expertise, our labour, our creativity, our kindness they treat us like we owe them our time and motivation but without us, they are empty shells ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┘ --- #16 fediverse/517 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────── @user-246 @user-366 @user-367 @user-353 My classes only briefly touched on 2nd wave feminism, because apparently 1st and 3rd were more important. I haven't gone back and re-examined it because I'm too busy learning about computers - alas! that there should be more hours in the day? I wonder what I would then be able to say, here in this moment, should I have been prepared with more moments in solitude or classroom, studying the work of those who came before me. Oh well, I should probably focus on processor architecture or Java frameworks or whatever I'm assigned next. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #17 fediverse/3784 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────── ┌──────────────────────┐ │ CW: education~ │ └──────────────────────┘ A child's schooling should consist of the bare-minimum amount of mental labor necessary to teach them the fundamentals of arithmetic, reading, and writing. They must be given opportunities to apply themselves toward educational goals beyond such things, including social proficiency, and physical dexterity and strength, and specialization in a particular academic subject. Kids need freedom. They need community, not "social time" that does not consist of anything more than living in the same rooms at school as the other kids. They need to be able to visit each other whenever they want. I personally believe that lectures taught in an interesting and engaging way are significantly more effective at instilling a drive to learn than rigorous drilling of detailed information. A kid will not learn a sufficient amount of information in school to be useful in a particular topic unless they seek out the knowledge on their own. Universities attempt to "fake" this effect by getting them to research. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────┘ --- #18 fediverse/857 --- ╔══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────┐ ║ I feel like I'd learn from coding tutorials more if someone started with a │ ║ complete program they can fit on one panel of their screen, a second for │ ║ showing what each particular thing they're pointing at means, and a third for │ ║ a typical usecase they might build and dismantle on the fly. │ ║ │ ║ like, scientific toys that they could use to explain a particular phenomena. │ ║ the way people used to have 3d models they either bought or built themselves │ ║ of like, atoms and wind patterns and stuff they could explain to kids. │ ║ │ ║ you know, like exactly the kind of things that are commonly stored at │ ║ children's museums. │ ║ │ ║ I was homeschooled, so I went to those places quite a lot. I always felt a │ ║ little unwelcome because I always seemed to be the eldest in every bunch. │ ║ That's continued all throughout my adulthood, like each of my peers are just a │ ║ few years younger than me. I think I just mature more slowly, and thus │ ║ associate with below the average. │ ║ │ ║ it's like, a descriptor of your rate of defining reality and being guided by │ ║ it. when │ ╟─────────┐ ┌───────────┤ ║ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╚═════════╧═══════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────┴──────────┘ --- #19 messages/498 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────── An important aspect to friendship is "loose" time together - like, at a party, you might interact with a dozen people, or you might spend it all with one special someone - but the time is "loose" you can do with it what you will. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────┘ --- #20 messages/1352 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─ My girlfriend buys me diapers and food. She has occasionally given me small gifts, but nothing more than what i would give to her. I'm not some silver spoon prince. I'm barely getting by. I feel suffocated at home and drowning when I'm out and about. Sometimes I don't know whether staying alone or going out is more strain, so usually I just fall asleep to the tune of my swirling black thoughts. Save me! Surrender me! Give me all that you own! I do not waste things. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════┘ |