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 you interact with your gender identity.
 
 your friends interact with your gender expression.
 
 strangers interact with your gender presentation.
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=== SIMILARITY RANKED ===

--- #1 fediverse/3534 ---
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 @user-1547 
 
 this is how I often think about the gender presentation spectrum
 
 (independent of gender expression and gender identity)
a graph showing two scales, one between masculine and feminine and the other between "dark" and "bright"  there is a box on the masculine side with a touch of bright and dark labelled "what society demands of men"  and there is a box on the feminine side with a touch of bright and dark labelled "what society demands of women
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--- #2 fediverse/5773 ---
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 @user-1429 
 
 maybe there's friends near you? maybe you can move closer to the friends?
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--- #3 fediverse/4485 ---
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 getting the phone numbers of cute he/thems at a bar is NOT the same as
 organizing.
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--- #4 messages/910 ---
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 all you need is to be steam friends with one person and then your whole
 organization knows what you're trying to say with game titles
 
 (I just like games)
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--- #5 fediverse/5497 ---
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 what if you left a change of clothes at every friend's place that you
 remembered~?
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--- #6 fediverse/3440 ---
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 @user-192 @user-763 
 
 omg who is that and why do I have gender envy
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--- #7 fediverse/3761 ---
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 trust that your friends enjoy you
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--- #8 messages/907 ---
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 What if we made trans guys grow fur and trans girls have magic
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--- #9 messages/925 ---
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 but also, somehow, the coolest, kindest person you know.
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--- #10 messages/498 ---
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 An important aspect to friendship is "loose" time together - like, at a party,
 you might interact with a dozen people, or you might spend it all with one
 special someone - but the time is "loose" you can do with it what you will.
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--- #11 fediverse/5416 ---
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 if you aren't rude, or bothersome, or excessively boring, you can pretty much
 be my friend forever.
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--- #12 fediverse/1272 ---
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 get yourself a fedi friend who knows everyone and boosts the cool people
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--- #13 messages/975 ---
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 trans women can be women and strong
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--- #14 messages/1177 ---
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 it's more than a community if only one person asks where you've been.
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--- #15 fediverse/3646 ---
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 @user-138 
 
 they look like they have a lot of fun...!
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--- #16 messages/1176 ---
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 it's not a community if nobody would ask where you've been.
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--- #17 fediverse/5195 ---
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 whenever you test one extreme, you must also test it's opposite, just for the
 extra information.
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--- #18 fediverse/1196 ---
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 @user-883 
 
 you're not a creep in fact you're quite awesome and cool and neato to be sure 
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--- #19 fediverse/1242 ---
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 one way to network is to connect other people.
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 conservatives think gender is assigning yourself to a particular social role
 
 liberals think gender is sort of an aesthetic and way of presenting yourself
 
 queer people tend to think of gender as how you feel and what sparks joy in
 your heart
 
 the truth is much more complicated and involves all three, and many more
 things besides.
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