=== ANCHOR POEM === ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── My father told me that "should" is useless. There's no reason to use "should" to justify your actions - "I did this because I should" is empty, it holds no meaning. "I should do this because I want to. Because I need to. Because it is necessary for this goal I am striving toward. Because I believe in this action, and want to do it as much as I can." those are more valid justifications, but they still rely on "should" Do you do? or do you know that you should do? ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ === SIMILARITY RANKED === --- #1 messages/1062 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────── I believe that all people's should be middle class, and if you're lower class it's because you squandered your wealth, not that you didn't have it to begin with. I believe people of higher class should get there because they are skilled, respected, or otherwise beloved. I believe they should hold less power the more they own, because wealth is its own burden and reward. I believe people who have power should respect it. They aren't necessarily those who have little, or much, but rather those who deserve it. It is difficult to estimate systematically who deserves wealth or power, but difficult problems are the most interesting if kept fair. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────┘ --- #2 fediverse/1014 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────── ┌──────────────────────┐ │ CW: politics │ └──────────────────────┘ @user-744 @user-246 it's exhausting, but what are we supposed to do? Lie down and rot? That's incel thinking. I'm not going to do that. They've already placed the last straw. It's only a matter of time now, the tide has shifted. You can't prepare for everything, and it's not a good idea to waste yourself in self-conflageration, but they are increasingly forcing us to orient our lives around them. They deserve what's coming. The oppressed are not the defeated. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┘ --- #3 messages/20 --- ══───────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────── My mom was always the reason I did school work. After she stopped pushing me, I stopped moving because I didn't know how to generate my own momentum. I had no passion and was listless. Least of all for school work. So, how to do it better? Instead of buying toys and extravagance for kids, you should set them up with projects. Ask what they want, and then help them build it. Include them in your thought processes when you're problem solving, and ask them for input. If they offer bad ideas, then *tell them*, don't just let them fail. If you're not 100% sure but they're convinced, then trust them! Try it out, who knows. Maybe it'll work better than what you had in mind. The goal isn't to be BETTER than them, it's to make them BETTER than you! Not right now (don't push too hard), but when they're your age. Like, it's best if they accomplish more and lived life more fully than you did at your age, but don't push them to be wise or strong or intelligent at the age they are now. Trust that they will grow when you give them room to, and guide and cultivate them toward goodness. For example, if they do something wrong (hitting other kids, messing with animals, destroying objects) then guide them toward a better path. Teach them empathy, and show them how it works by doing it yourself! Ask them questions like "How would you feel if that happened to you?", show them weak points and how to avoid them when playing, and give them alternatives to the behaviors they do that directly harm others. "Maybe play with the dog this way, instead of being rough" "Maybe you and that other kid can ride your bikes or draw instead of fighting - or if you still want to fight, then learn how to tell when someone is hurt and try to help them." The goal isn't to push them really hard off a cliff in a hanglider, hoping they can figure it out in the air, it's to strengthen their legs so they can run fast enough that they can take off successfully. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═────────┴┴───────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #4 fediverse/1317 --- ╔═══════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┐ ║ ... if I don't do this deadline by tomorrow they'll kick me out of school. │ ║ again. │ ║ │ ║ how am I going to be a programmer without a degree? feels useless to be me. │ ║ wish I could code my own horoscope >.> │ ║ │ ║ o wait dummy that's called "motivation" and "the ability to follow through on │ ║ your ideas and planned machinations" - yeah can I get some of that, if you │ ║ please? surely just a taste of discipline, through laboring to alter │ ║ conditions, surely a bit would suffice. │ ║ │ ║ c'mon don't fail me now. I can do this. I know I can. I know because I've been │ ║ told that I can, now and again through time and time yet again, always I seem │ ║ to [stack overflow] │ ║ │ ║ what's time if not the present amiright │ ║ │ ║ ... │ ║ │ ║ anyway... │ ║ │ ║ it's just git, how hard could it be? it's just calculus, it's just java, it's │ ║ just... well, it's not any of those things, not really. it's memorization, │ ║ it's application of tools that you've been shown (not that you've grown). It's │ ║ a lack of responsibility, where is my honor? ah but I digress, I'm a carpenter │ ║ at heart I guess │ ╟─────────┐ ┌───────────┤ ║ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╚═════════╧════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┴──────────┘ --- #5 fediverse/3153 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── ┌────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: re: politics-socialism-mention │ └────────────────────────────────────┘ @user-1074 yep... Though I think debate can also get in the way. I think we should act to improve the people's lives. Debate should teach, it should guide, but it should not prevent. There are more than enough resources for everyone. If you waste them, debate can decide when you get more to use. Much the same way that our Northern American democracy utilizes representatives in order to distance the decision making from the decision deciding, so too should be separate the empowered people acting for the good of all from those who decide who are good. Power must be earned, it must be deserved, and it must be eventually relinquished. That is the sacred duty of those who wield power - to use it honorably, and give it away. we should not debate things that are not mutable. We should not waste time complaining about how annoying other people are. who gives a shit if she wears a dress. we should not debate our human rights. Like bodily autonomy. it's her uterus. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #6 fediverse/4665 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────── ┌───────────────────────┐ │ CW: cursing-mentioned │ └───────────────────────┘ literally all it takes to activate me is for someone who's more radical than me to point me out and say "hey. you. you need to do more." and then I fuckin' go, like a beyblade (emphasis on blade) nicking the shins of allies and... probably foes, right? there's foes around here, right? I'm not just nicking my allies, right? ... right? anyway every top winds down and then I collapse and wail for a bit because I'm just like that I guess. Don't mind me, just self-immolating my way through history, let's see how it goes... you're supposed to be inspiring, but you just sound like you're whining ah. right. well... lemme catch up on sleep debt and I'll get back to valorizing. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────┘ --- #7 fediverse_boost/4375 --- ◀─╔════════════════════════[BOOST]═════════════════════════──────────────────────╗ ║ ┌────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐ ║ ║ │ "It won't be so bad..." *rationalizations galore* │ ║ ║ │ │ ║ ║ │ "If only they'd listened to people like me when I said ..." (comforting righteousness) │ ║ ║ │ │ ║ ║ │ "What more could I have done?" │ ║ ║ │ │ ║ ║ │ "This only proves why I was right about ..." (more righteousness) │ ║ ║ │ │ ║ ║ │ "I know nothing. I need to learn more. I must learn from this somehow." │ ║ ║ │ │ ║ ║ │ "I am not surprised." With a thousand yard stare. │ ║ ║ │ │ ║ ║ │ "This can't be real, there is a conspiracy..." (this is a path to madness) │ ║ ║ │ │ ║ ║ │ "Don't comply in advance." Said in a wavering shaky voice. │ ║ ║ └────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ ║ ╠─────────┐ ┌───────────╣ ║ similar │ chronological │ different ║ ╚═════════╧══════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────┴───────╝─▶ --- #8 fediverse/1996 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────── I don't expect or demand anything from teenagers except perhaps "be a cool kid" and "learn all that you can" Even most adults when they mess up I just think "ah, well, they're trying their hardest, same as anyone" And tbh I'd rather see a kid running up and down the aisles than burying themselves in an ipad I think we, as a culture, built our society to demand too many "should"s from people. "I should get a job" "I should study this thing I'm not interested in so I can make more money" "I should put out traps for the rabid wolverines so they don't start hanging out in my underwear" "I should pick up detergent at the grocery store" Should is useless. Do; or do not. There is no should. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────┘ --- #9 fediverse/1066 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────── that feeling when you're finally able to contribute to making decisions and then it's like, they make the decision without you T.T it's like, what... I know what you're talking about. Why would you not include me. I know a lot! I can offer some useful input! And besides, if I was privy to the conversations then I would learn a whole lot! I'd be better than best, I'd push forward the mark! Give me my chance, my opportunity to dance, and I'll be so much better than you thought from the start! But alas, I am required, [requited] doing little things of no worth, and so I am forced to denial. surely there's something wrong with me, surely I'm not at my best. Surely I'm not what's been good for me, and surely I'm not doing anything less. I'm at sorrow in my main, and that's quite a soundful refrain, so yeah I hope that someone will read this. obviously I'm not made for each other, and clearly it's not made to be worse. But here now I am troubled and [chirsht? shirsht? anyone wanna translate?] ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┘ --- #10 fediverse/4744 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────── ┌──────────────────────┐ │ CW: cat-mentioned │ └──────────────────────┘ me to my cat: "don't eat so much that you puke, okay?" me to me: "yeah I can take on another task, I'm almost done with this one and then I'll just do that one and maybe this one'll get back to me at the same time as this one which conflicts with this other thing so maybe I'll just puke, okay?" ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────┘ --- #11 fediverse/3178 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── ┌─────────────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: uspol-revolutions-and-stuff-or-whatever │ └─────────────────────────────────────────────┘ nothing you do on the internet will matter after the revolution. I don't care how many backups you have, there's a zero percent chance that we'll be able to figure out whose computer is whose after we've all moved around and given each other names that don't correspond to the names of our family in states that we lost. it doesn't mean the internet is useless right now, it just means that you should act as if you might not have it in the near future. also, like... every computer has a password. which basically means that it's useless unless you reflash it. pain is temporary, and it is an excellent teacher. there will be pain, but... we'll get over it. don't give up. there are brighter things in our future than what we have today. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #12 messages/1141 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──── ... I've been told I must smoke weed for another day. I'm so hungry. I swore I would keep myself alive. The time has come, yet I find myself holding back. WHY? People are dying! Fight with their breath! Inflict wounds on your opponent, bleed them, stir the hearts of your comrades, and enact demise upon your foes. Nothing else matters but the valorous fight. We are not waiting for. We are taking a breath before the plunge, into cool waters of possibility. Embrace the cold! Let it fill you with warmth! Embrace the dive! Let it fill you with speed! Embrace the leap! Let it fill you with courage, as you run toward the emptiness! Liberty, to choose the dive, Freedom, to fall through the air, Serenity in motion, as you piece the darkness! ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───┘ --- #13 fediverse/1417 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────── a 4th dimensional entity would exist at about the same speed we do sometimes... it feels like what I do is my responsibility to the universe like, I had been commanded the reason nations are important is because they are an allegiance based solely on geography. something we can all agree on is the material, so why not define ourselves by it? but that's all they are just words we pray to our star so look around. Your allegiance is to your neighbor, and theirs to theirs, an endless fabric of trust. We are all neighbors on this ball of sticks and mud, so come along with me and see the ways it could be. Much brighter, by far, to orbit our star, than to give up on life's precious notions. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────┘ --- #14 fediverse/4349 --- ╔═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────┐ ║ ┌──────────────────────┐ │ ║ │ CW: re: uspol │ │ ║ └──────────────────────┘ │ ║ │ ║ │ ║ @user-883 │ ║ │ ║ best case scenario, we elect a lawyer working for capitalism, the kind of │ ║ society we live under. │ ║ │ ║ having money is the same as having resources. And resources allow you to apply │ ║ yourself to a goal. The more you have, the better, but they each bear a heavy │ ║ load. │ ║ │ ║ Do you sacrifice your labor? your dignity, your honor? what do you burn on the │ ║ fire of wasteful expenditures, just for the power to rent? │ ║ │ ║ I'm saying that if you don't have money, you need to think about what you can │ ║ do with what you got, because that's how you pay for things, at least until we │ ║ decide that we'd rather help each other than work on capital's games. │ ║ │ ║ you have a house though, right? a place to live until it gets hot? that's good │ ║ enough for right now. Stay where you're at, do what you can to help. Get in │ ║ the habit of it. Think about how someone will complete their task, and then │ ║ think about stuff two or three steps down the road - what tools will they │ ║ need? what are they working on next? Can make any of those availble? │ ╟─────────┐ ┌───────────┤ ║ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╚═════════╧════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────┴──────────┘ --- #15 fediverse/6350 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════────── ┌──────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: suicide-mentioned-this-curse-will-give-you-nightmares-of-what-could-yet-be │ └──────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ the only thing that could make me want to end my own existence is ultimate betrayal. If the nature of the universe is twisted to defile me. Nothing fills me with more spite than unrequited vengeance. desecreation of truth. How could you. I would do anything to be struck down where I stand. Power is penance. I cannot take responsibility for any of my actions, for I am infinitely vulnerable on all fronts. Therefore, it's all my fault. What am I? Please, tell me before the dawn, let the sun not grace me once more. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────┘ --- #16 fediverse/2466 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── do as I say, and as I do. or don't, do as you want to. I hope you do want to do what I say to do. I wouldn't say it if I didn't think it was right. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #17 fediverse/2352 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── ┌──────────────────────┐ │ CW: pol │ └──────────────────────┘ Nobody will tell you what to do, at least not until you ask. Be where they can see you, and you'll be given a task. If you can do it, say "BRB" - one moment, let me handle that for you. If you can't, say "good luck", and they'll find someone else who can. It's okay to pass a task off - if someone says "Here's what I need, gotta go" then you say "sure, yeah, I'll get someone on it" - then, go find someone to do it. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #18 fediverse/3880 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────── @user-1614 oh, neat. now I can finally get to doing what I want to do, which is... all the stuff I've been doing. a missile without a guidance system doesn't stop just because it's GPS turned off! It falls to the earth and explodes where it lands, which... often is on it's butt. Not great. I sure hope my purpose isn't fulfilled. I wouldn't know what to do with myself. Guess I should just keep doing what I was doing, and pray that this time I'll listen. Though on the other hand, if I can do it, so can you. And maybe with enough butts in the game there'll reach a critical mass, at which point change is inevitable. Who can say, not I for sure, for my aplomb has categorized me as slapstick I guess. Ha. at least I can laugh at my own audacity. HA. next time I'll do better. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┘ --- #19 fediverse/146 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────────── @user-138 if you don't want feedback then why don't you just... not open the replies? leave them unread? if you feel the need to justify your actions (such as not reading replies to your controversial posts) then somewhere deep down you feel like those actions are unjustified, and needing an explanation. which makes your point feel less valid to others, since even you don't believe in it enough to guarantee it to be the truest expression of your soul. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #20 messages/298 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────── When you say "we need more low income housing" they hear "I want to live near more poor people" and they think "why would I want to live near poor people? They're poor for a reason! We only need enough around to work the jobs that suck anyway." which is basically their way of justifying slavery/indentured servitude, as it's not like they'd ever offer a way to climb out of that low-income pit. And its not like they'd ever let you pay them more, so they can afford to be equals, because then they wouldn't be middle-class anymore. They'd just be mid. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────┘ |