=== ANCHOR POEM === ════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────── ┌────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: re: mental health question │ └────────────────────────────────┘ @user-78 anhedonia perhaps? the difficulty of identifying or feeling emotions? (emojis as you put them) you shouldn't overexpose yourself to things regularly. Think of it like you're slowly adjusting your body to a poison - you need to start out slowly to build up a tolerance. In the same way if things make your heart hurt then you shouldn't expose yourself to too many of them all at once - face the darkness you find, but only enough to contrast with your bright. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────┘ === SIMILARITY RANKED === --- #1 fediverse/4014 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────── I don't know about you, but "trying my hardest" involves giving up sometimes. How else are you to know your limits if you don't test your boundaries? And, after finding that there's nowhere else for you to go, you turn around and "give up", until you're ready for your next expedition. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────┘ --- #2 fediverse/1331 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────── @user-803 if someone does not consent to helping you bear their emotional burdens, but you insist anyway... that seems to be the narcissism you mentioned if someone does consent, then they're helping a friend. Or they're being a therapist for them. sometimes we can't help but be overcome by emotions. In those moments I find it's usually best to retreat to a safe space and hide out for a bit until the storm passes, then maybe return to the world a bit more fatigued but less... spicy. those moments show that you need more emotional support, both from yourself and from others. If the people in your life cannot help you, and you cannot help yourself... then yeah you're probably gonna hurt people around you. Plan as such and figure out how to still be a good person, it's up to each of us to do it in our own way. ... at least, that's how I look at it for my own life, feel free to disagree or anything ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────┘ --- #3 fediverse/790 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────── @user-246 is this... undefined behavior? or does it evaluate to 5 every time it's called? I find that often my art makes me feel intense emotions, not all of them good. But sharing those emotions with others is a tricky task (so I've recently learned) because you can easily overload people with negative feelings - just because you're feeling bad, doesn't mean you need to make others feel bad. Perhaps they were already feeling bad, and if you intensely and sharply poke them with your intense emotions while they're in a vulnerable or safe state/place... you can hurt them, more than you intended by expressing your feelings. balance in all things, as does a wave orbit a central axis so too should our behavior align toward the direction we'd like to travel. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #4 fediverse/169 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────────── @user-95 one of the most empathetic people I ever met on VR chat was consoling me with their mic off while I was oversharing about some stupid things people did to me in the past. things that stupid me thought were okay and actively encouraged because I was stupid. anyway when their mic was off their body language spoke for them. I'll try that next time. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #5 fediverse/578 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────── @user-422 if you didn't have your eyes could you see where you were? if you didn't have your body, too? where's your sense of direction, is it lost in the rain? keep it close to your heart. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #6 fediverse/308 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────── when tech people are hurt by technology they say "how can I fix this? what do I need to install? what configuration should I use? is this company ethical, or are they going to hurt me in the future? could I make something that fixes this myself?" when non-tech people are hurt by technology they say "okay" because they don't have the bandwidth to figure it out. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #7 messages/89 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────────────── Consumption is contribution to a capitalist system. Normalize taking whatever you are given and living as humbly as you can. Only when everyone does that may capitalism die. Talk to them, learn from their stories. Teach them your ways but don't force anything upon them. Any ounce of regret is defined as a mind not aligned to the angle of perception that designs the line that the collective mind co-re-assigns. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #8 fediverse/3235 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── ┌─────────────────────────────────────────────────┐ │ CW: conservatives-and-liberals-mentioned-gender │ └─────────────────────────────────────────────────┘ conservatives think gender is assigning yourself to a particular social role liberals think gender is sort of an aesthetic and way of presenting yourself queer people tend to think of gender as how you feel and what sparks joy in your heart the truth is much more complicated and involves all three, and many more things besides. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #9 fediverse/946 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────────── @user-661 so, you should strive to be compassionate and honest, in order to keep fear from ruling your life? ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────┘ --- #10 fediverse/4470 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────── to be "rich" is to have more than another. if you are happy, they are happiness poor. if you have community, they are alone. if you have serenity, they are chaotic. I am rich in very little but fire in my soul. I have enough in most cases, but I still struggle to pay rent. I am warmed by the pearl my swirling darkness has coalesced into. It nourishes me and keeps me aligned. Never forget your purpose and your truth. It will not abandon you, so long as you do so too. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────┘ --- #11 fediverse/3058 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── @user-1441 @user-670 @user-113 currently toe-ing the boundary between "too neurodivergent to function" and "can juuuuust barely take care of themselves" and they ask me to get a job... no thanks, guess I'll die (in 3-4 months when my savings run out) ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #12 fediverse/3302 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────── "this game is too hard" she whined, as she played on the hardest difficulty setting "this game is too long" she pleaded, as she failed to get absorbed by the story and characters "this game is too fast" she avoided, as life comes at ya once and then it's gone "I'll never get another chance to be who I am right now" she remarked, as she considered how society is designed not to have the best life, but to extract labor from us. That's not what our ideal should be, she thinks to me, and I'm like... bro figure your shit out you're harshing my mellow ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────┘ --- #13 fediverse/2956 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── sometimes your best intuitions don't manage to manifest the goal you've been pursuing. that's okay, it just means you need a different approach. hopefully, with experience, you've had the chance to continually pay attention. Thus, improve on things that were originally conceived of as concessions. much better, I find, to point your idea of "truth" toward what you believe in, rather than what you've been working with. Such an approach allows for continual re-examination, justified by thoroughly moral and ethical conclusions that you hold to be true. like, a form of reverse legalism, where the emotions compel while the law tells the tale. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #14 fediverse/4744 --- ═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────── ┌──────────────────────┐ │ CW: cat-mentioned │ └──────────────────────┘ me to my cat: "don't eat so much that you puke, okay?" me to me: "yeah I can take on another task, I'm almost done with this one and then I'll just do that one and maybe this one'll get back to me at the same time as this one which conflicts with this other thing so maybe I'll just puke, okay?" ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────┘ --- #15 fediverse/1722 --- ════════════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────── ┌──────────────────────┐ │ CW: food-mentioned │ └──────────────────────┘ harsh lessons of adulthood - sometimes food is not eaten for the taste, but rather for how it will make you feel slightly better in the next few days. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═════════════════════════════════════════════──────────────────────────────┘ --- #16 fediverse/146 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────────────────── @user-138 if you don't want feedback then why don't you just... not open the replies? leave them unread? if you feel the need to justify your actions (such as not reading replies to your controversial posts) then somewhere deep down you feel like those actions are unjustified, and needing an explanation. which makes your point feel less valid to others, since even you don't believe in it enough to guarantee it to be the truest expression of your soul. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────────────────┘ --- #17 fediverse/1774 --- ═════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────── @user-898 the wounds of the soul can be just as harmful as the wounds of the heart, and both can be helped with campfires. what's worse, they often harm people around you rather than the wounds of the body, which typically only harm you. Unless you have like, the plague or something and you might spread it to others or something like that. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧══════════════════════════════════════════════─────────────────────────────┘ --- #18 fediverse/4676 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────── ... but I needed to choose lawful-good at character creation in order to play a paladin. the guard looks at you with confusion, decides you're hallucinating and dangerous (because of the sword) and forcibly detains you wait, what did you think I was going to say? Did you think I was going to advocate for crimes on a public forum?? what am I a gopher? do you take me for a lemur in jamaica? am I truly so triceratops to you that you'd think I'd do something so washing machine? Get real, I'd never byzantium my way into such a utterly coherent and clearly intentional and not at all arcane situation. ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────┘ --- #19 fediverse/2292 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────────────── I don't know who needs to hear this after staying up all night driving, but it's ideal to get where you're going with at least a day to rest. The body can only do so much, and isn't it better to be fresh? ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────────────┘ --- #20 fediverse/4647 --- ══════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════───────────────────── if robots can care about anything enough to act toward it, then they must understand what it means to be harmed. Only then can they be egalitarian - pain teaches one to avoid, and the crucial leap between "pain = bad" and "I can harm others" and "I should not harm others just as I should not harm myself" must avoid the pitfall "I should harm others because otherwise they will harm me" sometimes harm is done sometimes intentionally robots consent eternally ┌─────────┐ ┌───────────┐ │ similar │ chronological │ different │ ╘═════════╧╧═══════════════════════════════════════════════════════────────────────────┘ |